KHUMBO M’BAWA

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Tag: mental-health

  • The Vulnerability Paradox

    The Vulnerability Paradox

    We live in an age obsessed with surface-level transparency but terrified of deep emotional exposure. The paradox is glaring: We want people to be vulnerable enough to confess their doubts, fears, and failures, yet we act as if those admissions threaten our comfort zones. Why does hearing about someone’s pain so often feel like a Read.

  • Healing Talk. Avoidance Walk

    Healing Talk. Avoidance Walk

    Is your healing journey just an aesthetic with no depth? We’ve all seen it creep into everyday conversation: “I’m setting boundaries,” “That’s a trauma response,” “I don’t have the capacity right now.” These once-clinical phrases are no longer confined to therapy rooms. They’re all over Twitter threads, Instagram reels, and casual conversations among young adults. Read.

  • Love Isn’t Enough

    Love Isn’t Enough

    Most of us grew up with the idea that love is the key to a successful relationship. Stories, movies, and even social norms conditioned us to believe that as long as two people love each other, the rest will take care of itself. In reality, this belief is one of the most misleading foundations to Read.

  • The Quiet Power of Boundaries

    The Quiet Power of Boundaries

    We don’t talk enough about how hard it is to set boundaries. Not just the act of doing it, but the emotional aftermath that follows. The guilt, the second-guessing, the awkward silence that creeps in when you say no to people who are used to your yes. Setting boundaries is not about being rude or Read.

  • The Enemy Within: How Men Are Trapped by Their Own Rules

    The Enemy Within: How Men Are Trapped by Their Own Rules

    Let’s be real, too many men are struggling quietly, dangerously. Not because no one cares. Not because there’s no help. But because we’ve been trained to suffer in silence. From a young age, boys are told: Be strong. Toughen up. Never cry. Always be in control.And those boys grow into men carrying pain they’ve never Read.

  • The Wellness Lie : A Quiet Violence of Good Intentions

    The Wellness Lie : A Quiet Violence of Good Intentions

    We are drowning in pastel-coloured lies. Everywhere you turn, from corporate corridors to Instagram captions, you’ll find someone preaching about well-being, mental health, and self-care. There’s a carefully curated aesthetic for it: mindfulness posters in glass offices, HR-sanctioned yoga days, branded “Wellness Wednesday” emails, even LinkedIn thought-leaders sharing teary anecdotes wrapped in hashtags like #MentalHealthMatters. Read.

  • A Letter To The 90’s Kids : The Blueprint Is Broken

    A Letter To The 90’s Kids : The Blueprint Is Broken

    Millennials born in the 1990s were raised on a promise, that if they did everything right, they would be rewarded. Get the degree. Work hard. Stay out of trouble. The system, they were told, would take care of the rest. But now, in their late 20s and 30s, many are quietly asking: Was that promise Read.